Parental Alienation
What is Parental Alienation?
Parental alienation has been recognised by many in the family law courts for some time and is increasingly used alongside implacable hostility or adverse influence to describe important aspects of very difficult cases. These are not terms generally used to describe just difficult or awkward parents, they describe a parent who goes out of their way directly and often then indirectly (topping up) to sabotage or minimise the chances of children having a meaningful relationship with the other parent. These alienating parents simply put their dislike for the other parent above the needs and emotional welfare of their children.
Mistake parents can make in Family Court hearings
A common mistake of parents entering the family court system is to tell the court their child is suffering from parental alienation when it is far too early to determine such a diagnosis in the court’s view and it may be seen as an expected initial reluctance and reaction of the children to the difficult circumstances of separation or divorce. This can be unhelpful to the parent’s case if they make accusations of parental alienation when the court may just see it as a normal early reaction to the situation. It is suggested that it is far better to take advice from an experienced and knowledgeable advisor on whether allegations of parental alienation are evidence based and how to appropriately bring it before the court if there is evidence to support such an assertion.
Is it Parental Alienation?
To determine whether a child’s rejection of a parent is reasonable or unreasonable (adversely influenced) in individual circumstances it can be helpful to look at the situation prior to rejection, was it a normal loving relationship between the child and parent; if there was a prior better relationship has the rejected parent’s behaviour deteriorated; would the reasons the child gives to support their rejection of a parent be sufficient to rupture the relationship without an adverse contribution from the other parent.
Effects and responsibilities
A child aligning with one parent against the other is unhealthy and emotionally damaging to that child in the short-term and particularly in the long-term. Healthy thinking parent’s help children adjust to changes and promote their relationship with the other parent. When parents claim their children are taking a lead role and their wishes and feelings should determine if parenting time goes ahead or the level of that parenting time with the other parent, these parents are abdicating responsibility by not helping or indeed undermining their children through these difficult transitions in their lives.
Possible signs of Parental Alienation
Overt parental alienation may show itself by a parent refusing to communicate with the other parent; making patronising or unpleasant remarks about the other parent to the child (bad-mouthing) or in the child’s presence; frustrating contact; not passing on telephone messages or gifts; false allegations of violence, neglect and sex abuse; offering alternatives to a child scheduled to see the other parent; not allowing or sabotaging telephone contact; moving to another country or part of this jurisdiction; saying the children are too ill to travel when they are well and of course breaching court orders.
Indirect parental alienation may be scowling whenever the other parents name is mentioned or when they telephone to speak to the children; ignoring the children when they speak about the other parent; making it obvious to the children by one’s demeanour that the other parent is not nice or welcome.
Court’s response
The court’s response to these parents’ negative behaviours is often slow and ineffective. Parents whose relationship with their children is undermined to a point where their children are saying they do not want to see him or her are usually dependent on whether a particular judge or CAFCASS Officer understands the situation and is willing to spend a considerable amount of time and resources challenging the alienating parent’s behaviour.
Courts can respond by ordering the children spend more time with the parent affected or appointing a children’s guardian or enforcing contact or ordering a psychological/psychiatric assessment or family therapy or changing residence or suspending a residence order of an offending parent or applying conditions to a residence order which if not met can change the residence of the children. However, these can take many months and perhaps years in some cases to implement even if the court is willing to take such measures.
Reducing risks and recovering from Parental Alienation
For parents who may be at risk of parental alienation it is suggested they inform themselves and with this information they may be able to assist their children to inoculate themselves against parental alienation attempts from a parent. For those parents who may already have a relationship shattered by parental alienation then it is very difficult and an appalling situation which needs careful planning and assistance if there is to be any real chance of a successful recovery from this nightmare scenario.
There is a way back into an alienated child’s life by a parent who has been rejected but it will generally need the help of the court, professionals and perhaps an expert witness. Enlisting this help either by showing a judge the options available in an appropriate manner or persuading an unconvinced court of the necessity of taking robust steps is not always easy but it is necessary. Otherwise the family law courts can often give up on a case without having taken all the steps needed and available to re-establish the relationship. It’s never a good strategy to solely rely on the court to sort matters out, always try to learn about your situation and give the judge viable options without lecturing, as yours is only one of many cases that will cross most judges busy desks each week.
A couple of books we recommend for all parents who might be in a difficult situation as described or at risk of one developing are ‘Divorce Poison’ and ‘Adult Children of Parental Alienation Syndrome’. Essential reading for many separated or divorced parents.
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We have a long history of successfully assisting parents in the family courts who may have Parental Alienation as a factor in their cases. These are often tremendously difficult and complex cases where it is important to have assistance that understands the steps and arguments needed to be made at Court to help secure the resources and positive involvement of the family courts.
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I have received much-needed support in my family law case involving our son, a case with a significant international element, from Jeff and Sania. Jeff helped me at a couple of key points when the international aspect was causing serious concern. More recently Sania helped me achieve some good progress on time spent with the child, something I had previously not had much success with on my own.
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Although I had an idea of what I had to do next with regard to starting legal proceedings I knew I needed help. I visited my local Families Need Fathers meeting and met Mr Colin Brealey who chairs the monthly meetings.
Right from the start I found Colin to be helpful, professional and above all – totally child focussed. Colin advised and continues to advise me, along with many others within the Families Need Fathers meetings. Seeing Colin’s professionalism, I decided to accept his offer of assistance to help me through the legal process as a Mckenzie Friend. – This has got to be one of the best decisions I have ever made!
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Mr G. (Leicestershire)
I had pre Colin paid out over £10,000 in solicitor fees and got no where fast, i contacted Colin after he was recommended by a friend in a similar situation. It was at very late notice but Colin assured me he would assist with all my legal paper work and proposals regarding my two children. Colin contacted me at a suitable time for both of us but then stayed up via phone contact till 02:00AM!!!!!
UNBELIEVABLE but yes he did, he managed to complete all my necessary paper work for the court on such late notice due to my late contact but he stayed awake completing this as the next day was the court trial. Colin also attended court in person as my McKenzie friend and assisted me in what i needed to do to get the desired result.
I was awarded the children more favourably than my ex partner and i feel, no i know it was down to Colin’s help, i will be ever in his debt as my children are my world and having them taken away by a court and their mother was the single most worst thing i have ever had to experience in my life.
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Ms H. (Essex)
I just wanted to say a huge thank you for being there, at the remote court hearing, for me.
I felt the most supported in nearly 6 years of attending the family court.
Thank you for your expert guidance, you are clearly well trained and experienced and it is what I needed.
You are eloquent but approachable and stopped me feeling overwhelmed by it all.
The response from the Judge towards me was much more positive this time and I felt he took more notice as I had you there for me.
I will definitely use you again, should the need arise.
Kind regards
Mr H. (Birmingham)
Once again I am indebted to the support that Colin has given.
Mr G. (Nottinghamshire)
Mr Colin Brealey assisted me, as a McKenzie Friend when I applied for a Child Arrangements Order for my son.
His professionalism and human support helped me to get this problem sorted out easily and fast. I would highly recommend Mr Brealey to anyone who needs support in Court for family issues.
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Mr N. (Birmingham)
Thanks again Jeff to tell my mom of the outcome was the best news I’ve given her for a while. I owe part of that to you!!! Thanks:
“Well just back from my Fact-Finding hearing where I had DV, with Ex and Kids, Social Services and CaFcass reports unhelpful and didn’t want to make a decision. My Mckenzie friend coached me superbly and we went into court. 3 lady magistrates and the ex had Barrister. From the opening statement from the Barrister more accusations and request for an adjournment. To my relief and contrary to what people stated the magistrates unpicked her motives. Directed her counsel to agree on a position for contact by midday. The counsel started with supervised contact for a day to more than one day supervised, my Mckenzie friend played hardball we walked out the court with unsupervised for 2 days first month, 4 days next month then Alternative weekends moving forward. This is something reading posts I didn’t expect and I’m so chuffed. I have my boys back in my life and I choked when the magistrates emphasised the impact on kids and the legal implication if the order wasn’t upheld. So for all you fathers out there follow your heart do your research and more importantly don’t give up. I’m planning some fun times for my boys with the money I don’t have to spend fighting bitter accusations. Thanks to all and don’t go into court thinking they are against you !!!”
Mr M. (London)
I met Jeff at my local FNF meeting. I was immediately struck not only by Jeff’s technical expertise but also by the calm, measured and authoritative way in which he gave others help and support.
I didn’t even bother looking for a solicitor, I engaged Jeff as my McKenzie Friend. He helped me file an application to court and draft a position statement. He subsequently helped support me in court.
In court Jeff was a rock-steady mentor, providing pragmatic and clear advice at just the right time. He negotiated with the other side and his clear familiarity with the system filled me with confidence in the waiting before the hearing. Importantly he had the confidence of the judge, who explicitly remarked on Jeff’s CV with obvious admiration.
In the hearing, following a rocky start (the judge thought my suggested residence schedule was too much for a 2 year old…and lots of allegations in mum’s position statement – all ignored by Cafcass and the judge) the judge supported an amended schedule Jeff and I proposed; Jeff was then instrumental in hammering out a brief but prescriptive Shared Residence Order by consent.
The mother had applied for sole residence and proposed one Wednesday overnight a fortnight and every other weekend Friday to Sunday 6pm for contact. No holidays, other than alternate Christmas day.
I ended up with an SRO by consent, every Wednesday overnight and every other weekend Friday nursery pick up to Monday nursery drop off. I also got half of all holidays and alternate Christmas and Easter.
I am confident that with Jeff’s help, support and guidance I got the best outcome for my son; the long weekends and holidays in particular will help immensely in his relationship with me, his grandparents and his young cousin. I am sure I wouldn’t have secured such a good outcome for my son without Jeff’s calming influence, help and guidance.
Mr K. (Surrey)
Ms G. (London)
Carly was a really fantastic choice she went out of her way to help and was a great listener as well she did an amazing job and I wish there were more legal people like her. *****
Mr C. (Northamptonshire)
My experience with Colin has always been exactly what was needed. Throughout proceedings, there were times when unfairness was rife. Colin ways gave me honest and helpful advice… Even when it wasn’t what I wanted to hear. His professional conduct was complemented by the other party. I really couldn’t have asked for more. Both myself, and my child, thank him for all of the work, help and guidance throughout a very challenging 18 months.
Mr O. (Essex)
Going to court is a nerve racking experience in any situation and representing yourself seems like an extremely daunting task, questions like what to prepare? where to stand? what to say? Were just a few of the things I was concerned about but having Jeff with me gave me the knowledge and confidence to successfully represent myself.
I am now enjoying regular and increasing access to my daughter
Ms H. (London)
Hope you are well?
Apologies for taking so long to write to you. I’d wanted to get in touch and thank you for your service during court proceedings. It was really comforting to have someone there with me that knew the process, was understanding of my situation and wanted the best for myself and child.
I know that you went above and beyond and ended up doing CAFCASS’ job on the day too so really appreciate everything.
Take care
Mr P. (Greater Manchester)
Mr B. (Manchester)
Hi, Colin sorry it’s taken so long for this.
Just wanted to thank Colin for all his hard work and support through my court hearing he was very professional helped me out all along the way answered any questions I had in real talk and that was very important to me I got everything I wanted, a change of residence, thanks to Colin and his team, thanks again Colin
Mr T. (Merseyside)
My case began as a relatively simple one, seeking to extend my shared residence of my children to include one midweek overnight stay during term time, rather than simply taking them out for tea after school and returning them to their mother.
Things became more complex when false allegations of violence against the children were made by the children’s mother against my fiancée. Social Services intervened, with both my fiancée and I unable to see the children for a period of time whilst investigations took place. Social Services thankfully saw through the allegations and determined that my fiancée posed no risk to the children.
Throughout the entire case, from drafting the initial application to court, accompanying me at court, drafting position statements, advising on dealing with social services, to negotiating a consent order with the other side’s solicitor, Colin’s assistance has been instrumental in ensuring that the final outcome not only met my initial objectives, but in fact exceeded them.
Colin has performed all of these services professionally and to an extremely high standard. I have encountered quite a few solicitors and barristers over the years in the course of mine and my fiancées dealings with the family courts. I would place Colin as at least the equal of the best of those legal professionals.
I should also make mention of Jeff Botterill, who deputised when Colin was unavailable. Like Colin, Jeff also provided a highly professional service, and gave me confidence when appearing in court.
I will forever owe these gentlemen a debt of gratitude for their assistance. I have no hesitation in recommending the services of Colin and Jeff.
Mr D. (Suffolk)
I have just finished using Colin at Family Law Decisions as my McKenzie friend in a child arrangements order. I cannot praise Colin enough, he was incredibly knowledgeable and instantly filled me with confidence. Together we managed to get an incredible result for my children and I. I only wish I had heard of Colin before I wasted thousands of pounds on solicitors! I genuinely cannot recommend him enough.
Mrs O. (Northamptonshire)
I have nothing but praise for (Family Law Decisions) McKenzie Friends, they go above and beyond, and you are treated with kindness and respect at a difficult time, their advice and support is invaluable and would highly recommend them to everyone. I will write another review after my case to update this review.
Mr D. (Devon)
If I wouldn’t met Sania Mahmood, I would spend 1000s of £ for the same help from solicitors. She helped me with my case as well as moral advice. I would really recommend her for anyone who’s struggling with family matters.
Mr S. (Derbyshire)
Ms R. (Leicestershire)
I recently reached out to this company for help with a legal family matter and was helped by a lady called Lisa Ivanow. I can not explain how pleased I am with the service I have received. Lisa’s knowledge and professionalism was outstanding. She went above and beyond to help and advise me. Replies were quick, detailed and easy to understand. I am extremely satisfied with the service I have received and would recommend Lisa and this company to anyone. I would 100% use them again in future if needed.
Mr S. (Berkshire)
Hello Julie and Haleema,
Mr U. (London)
Izhaar was very professional in his approach handling my case. The communication was very good always promptly answering my delicate queries. I would fully recommend Izhaar and Family Law decisions. Thank You.
Mr E. (Hertfordshire)
Good morning Jeff, Thank you for all your support and hard work.
Mr D. (Derbyshire)
I was given Colin’s details by Families Need Father’s Nottingham. It was a time when I needed to save money FAST having spent over 18 grand on solicitors and barristers and was facing a significant income reduction due to COVID.
I didn’t look back; Colin was straight to the point from the start and very quickly got the route issues and basically cut through all the BS. Unusually I would say for a McKenzie Friend, he is very proactive and straight speaking; he doesn’t just do paperwork; he told me exactly what to expect and more importantly what to do. As he’s ex-military and a competitive person; he hates to lose. He didn’t lose with me. He’s well organised, efficient and does exactly what he says he’s going to do.
I had Colin assist me for over a year now and I’m going to use him again for an upcoming case that should wrap matters up. We’ve gone from starting contact with my children in a Contact Centre to regular fortnightly overnight stays and having them 50% of the school holidays; we moved forward in every case we fought. You may not like everything he says, but in my experience, it’s always accurate; do what he says and you will get the right outcome. I continue to recommend him to every person who is struggling to see their kids.
Mrs M. (Hampshire)
Mr B. (London)
Ms S. (Bristol)
The minute Colin took the case on he was very efficient. He was with me every step of the way, I always knew what was happening with the case and the next steps thank to Colin. If anyone who needs a Mckenzie friend I would most definitely recommend Colin.Thank you Colin for all your support.I really appreciate it
Mr H. (Derbyshire)
I can hand on heart say that I would recommend you for advice to anyone facing legal difficulties.
Cheers
Mr P. (Greater Manchester)
The service Jeff provided me in the very difficult situation, was second to none. I may have been paying for a service but I feel indebted to Jeff. – A very positive result for both of my kids.
Ms G. (London)
Mr T. (Norfolk)
Tom Edrop took time to talk my son through what would happen at court and was responsive in dealing with and supporting him through the process, for the cost the experience and advice is fantastic! especially after having quotes from solicitors over £10k plus. I would gladly recommend Tom to anyone that is in a similar position.
Mr L. (Norfolk)
Mr W. (London)
His guidance and support throughout the court hearings was excellent. He put me at ease and gave me the confidence to represent myself. His knowledge of the law and the case history surrounding leave to remove exceeded any that I had heard from the two solicitors that I had used. He is also passionate about the need for both parents in the lives of their children. I would highly recommend Jeff to anyone else looking for a McKenzie friend.
Ms D. (London)
Very knowledgeable, helpful, friendly and responsive.
At a difficult time, it was a relief to have someone explain the process and support me in a professional capacity whilst keeping things simple enough to understand. I couldn’t have asked for more.
Mr C. (London)
I hope I never have to employ you again, but knowing her I probably will!
Mr T. (Merseyside)
Ms L. (Cheshire)
In August 2021, mine and my Children’s world fell apart and we are still going through a horrendous situation. I can’t thank Carly Graham at Family Law Decisions enough for all her support, hard work and expertise. I wish I had have contacted Family Law Decisions sooner. Carly listened carefully, gave honest advice and best way forward. Carly always asks how me and the children are doing with our mental health too, she really cares. The Non-Mol order Carly did for me was approved by a Judge the same day. With all the emotions I am currently going through, I could not have done this without Carly. Thank you again Carly, you are amazing!
Ms F. (Hertfordshire)
I had a domestic problem so I contacted Family Law Decisions.
Spoke to Haleema who was absolutely amazing. She talked me through everything she supported me through the most difficult experience of my life.
She was always there at the end of the phone & was by my side through it all.
I can’t recommend Haleema enough she’s amazing & she cares about you.
Ms C. (West Midlands)
We’ve been back at court today and finally have a judgement from His Honour Judge Bellamy who has granted me permission to appeal and has agreed to investigations in accordance with our skeleton argument.
I wanted to thank you from the bottom of my heart for what you have done for us. HHJ Bellamy commented that it was a very detailed and extremely helpful skeleton argument, so basically you’re brilliant and I owe you so much.
Ms L. (London)
Hi 🙂 my name is as stated above I was supported last minute by Izhaar Uhaq for my Non-Molestation hearing today as the applicant.
I cannot be grateful enough or express how satisfied I am to have embarked on the help given to me at later stages prior to my court hearing.
I am quite intimidated by the legal jargon and basically wanted help in a way of interpreting my options or questions in more of a way I could understand and express my response to the best of my ability. Not only this I found Izhaar to have a rare quality in being a gentle individual in his approach and offered a great deal of potential in the way of a personable and by offering a great deal of empathy and understanding.
Thank Izhaar, I hope I can continue to embark on your services for the remainder of my Child Arrangement Order in the up and coming future.
You are an asset to the team.
Kind Regards
Ms H. (Yorkshire)
I was very happy with the service I got from Izhaar he was my rock I was in despair till I spoke and got help from him I would recommend this firm to anybody who needs help they are absolutely brilliant kind caring and very professional I felt so much more confident once they started helping me thank you so much.
Mr L. (Lincolnshire)
After representing myself over a couple of hurdles within the family law realm, teaching myself along the way, it finally became time to apply for a c100. I had my free half hour with a solicitor , and was made aware of the cost, to see through all the process would run me to nearly £9000.
Luckily with a little bit more research, I found family law. I filled in a small call back form, and within a few hours a lovely lady called Carly Graham called back and I must say, within a few minutes, she made me feel relaxed, relieved and recharged. I felt like before finding this company and the wonderful Carly my tank was on empty, physically and emotionally. Myself and Carly had a few chats on the phone and I was more than happy for her to take over. This lady knows her stuff. More than helpful, so articulate and explains the jargon of court paperwork in laymen’s terms. I actually feel that this firm charges less than what they should be, that’s how good Carly reflects on them.
I’m still in the process with my situation, and I know for a fact without Carly by my side, assisting me and explaining things in a clear way, I wouldn’t have got this far. Only a phone call or a Gmail away, and so so prompt in responding. Thank you for everything you have done for me so far, you’re no doubt a brilliant reflection on family law as a company. These people and this firm, really really do care. And I’ve never been one to write a review. Thank you again guys.
Ms F. (Manchester)
I was recommended to this company by a family friend & if l am honest was slightly dubious. But there was clearly no need to be so.
I had a long chat with Carly, who heard me out, listened intently, never once hurried me, cut me off, made me feel l was wasting her time, she was in a phrase a “God Send”. At a time of despair & not knowing which way to turn, Carly advised me, gave me all the options & made good sound suggestions & together we decided on the way forward.
Never ever was l made to feel l was bothering her, she even spoke with me once out of hours, when she realised l had had some, not so good news & reassured me we could make this right & that’s exactly what she did. I can’t praise her enough. And l shall always recommend her to my family & friends.
For me, this is an ongoing situation, which l will be using Carly to help me with legally in the future. Cannot thank her enough & would definitely recommend as professional, efficient & definitely knows her stuff.
Mrs B. (London)
Thank you so much Tom.
You are the best among the McKenzie Friends. You helped me so much..Great job!
Author and Creator of The Custody Minefield
Mr B. (London)
DR (Ms) C. – London
A painless and smooth process…
I highly recommend Jeff Botterill to anyone involved in family court matters. His ultra-sharp advice proved to be very helpful.
I was particularly amazed how good he was at multi-tasking whilst I was cross-examing: he took accurate notes, prompted new questions and drafted submissions, all at the same time and equally well.
Representing myself for the first time at a full-day hearing was emotionally difficult, but his help was reassuring and caling. Thank you Jeff!
Ms C. (Lincolnshire)
We are now a happy re-United family I never dreamed possible. I didn’t understand the court process, I cannot thank him enough for re uniting my family.
He was helping me write statements and filling in court forms until late at night and put up with my lack of IT knowledge, he is a wonderful guy, cannot thank him enough for what he has done.
Mr B. (Northamptonshire)
I firmly believe that this positive result was achieved through Colin’s advice and more specifically through his negotiating skills at the final hearing as this made a huge impact on the final outcome. I would recommend Colin Brealey to anyone.
Mr A. (Liverpool)
Tom Edrop was very supportive, the day before Settlement Conference he gave me a call and explain the whole procedure such as how it goes, what to expect and how we can approach issues. We narrow down the issues we want to deal with instead of going full package.
During the hearing, he was assisting and we had a WhatsApp connection all the time, he redirect me to the right point when I start floating to keep me in the path. It was not a fight between mom and me and the opposition did not show any interest to get this deal done.
Tom assisted me to get maximum contact which was nowhere near ideal but our hands were tied. After hearing we review it again and I think I couldn’t get this agreement without Tom. I am now more optimistic for the final hearing.
Ms C. (Essex)
Absolutely brilliant, quick efficient, helpful and polite Sania was excellent cannot recommend enough. Thank you Sania
Mr C. (Hampshire)
Having Jeff’s support has helped due to his: knowledge of legal matters; ability to prepare clear concise statements; and quick thinking in the court room. But its not just these knowledge and skills – he combines a supportive understanding of a very difficult and upsetting situation with a clear headed willingness to tell you when he think such emotions risk making you say or do unhelpful things. Thanks to Jeff’s support I have seen my children for the first time in a couple of years and am awaiting a more permanent contact order to be put in place.
Mr F. (London)
Mrs S. (Oxfordshire)
A massive thank you for all the support you gave during the court process, I really wouldn’t of come through it without your help.
Ms B. (London)
Ms H. (London)
Ms G. (Berkshire)
After 18 months of sky high legal fees that I could no longer afford, I had no choice but to represent myself and take on my former husbands’ London based legal team with the help of Colin Brealey. This was a hugely daunting task but one that I immediately felt was attainable with the help of Colin. Colin gave me the confidence and support that I needed to stand in Court and fight for myself and my children.
I can only describe my marriage and my divorce as something out of a horror movie. My divorce was a hugely complex case, extending over 3 years with countless files of litigation including 2 Non Molestation Orders and an extensive Police chronology. The litigation included details of the domestic violence I endured, my former husband’s drug and alcohol addiction, children’s care issues, complex financials and extensive Police involvement.
Colin took it all in his stride and took time to read through the extensive history and made sure he was familiar with all the previous orders and applications. Colin assisted me at all times in the preparation of applications on email and over the phone, and in person at all the numerous hearings.
Colin always arrived early prior to the hearings which gave me great comfort as it allowed us time to meet and talk through everything before we went in. I was always terribly nervous and anxious but Colin was great at calming me and preparing me and focusing me for each hearing, particularly when I was facing counsel.
As well as helping me with all the litigation and hearings. Colin would always contact me to hear how any meetings went with the Police as well as when the children spent time with their appointed guardian.
Sadly, my divorce was one of threat and violence. Although I had panic buttons in my home – If I was ever in fear or panic, then I knew I could call Colin for help or advice 24/7.
Colin was, and continued to be, a huge support to me and my family throughout the ongoing proceedings. Colin has a vast knowledge and extensive experience in the legal field. As well as this, Colin has been an emotional support to me through the most painful and traumatic years of my life.
Mrs S. (Wiltshire)
The first thing me and my husband said when we got in the car.
Mr F. (Bedfordshire)
Ms N. (London)
I had Tom (Edrop) by my side, and I’m very grateful I did.
I was going through some horrific family chaos at the time, and Tom managed to navigate me through, both calmly and successfully. He was attentive, intelligent, reasonable, with a huge grasp to attain, retain and recall information quickly. Tom actually gave me some hope, and when you’re stuck against a not-so-pleasant other side, hope gives you confidence, and Tom gives you that in droves (along with good, solid advice).
Thanks Tom!
Ms S. (Hertfordshire)
Izhaar has been absolutely amazing with my case so far.
Very professional and straight to the point.
So happy with the outcome of my 1st hearing thank you Izhaar from the bottom of my heart.
Mr B. (London)
Jeff, your experience of the English Family Justice System is second to none and you have been invaluable in helping me achieve 50/50 contact for my daughter. Thank you very much for all your help and advice.
Mr L. (Lincolnshire)
Family Law Decisions McKenzie Friends and Paralegals have been very helpful.
Carly Graham the young lady dealing with my case was very professional, she took the time to understand me and my case.
Very friendly and very helpful.
Highly recommend.
Mr S. (Dorset)
I found Family Law Decisions through a web search. I had tried other McKenzie Friends organisations at first but got a rather generic reply by email or slow reply. However, Carly got back to me very quickly and has been really helpful and knowledgeable throughout the stressful hearings. It was like having a legally trained friend helping you through it. Highly recommended.
Mr & Mrs H. (Cheshire)
When we began in the Family Courts we were paying for legal representation in the form of various Solicitors and Barristers, some progress was made but this took some 2 years to achieve at extortionate costs to us.
We approached Jeff to enquire whether he would be able to assist us in the continuing family matter and Jeff confirmed his terms and conditions to us from the outset, we were very happy with all of the details that Jeff passed over to us and we were pleased to have his support.
Jeff has been a lifesaver. Literally. Jeff’s knowledge of the process that we have been going through is comprehensive and moreover, Jeff has a unique insight into our particular circumstances and has, on many occasions, offered us his support and advice on how to deal with matters that surround the Court case. This has proved invaluable and has helped us both cope with the process on many occasions.
Jeff’s integrity and honesty are outstanding, he is a man amongst men. Jeff had complete compassion for our situation. Jeff has a keen eye for details and is extremely prompt with his responses – which has helped us cope with some stressful situations.
Our only regret is that we did not know of Jeff’s existence when our Court proceedings began – we are completely certain that his involvement from the start would have benefitted the matter a great deal and not to mention, save us a considerable amount of money that we had to pay for legal representation.
We have absolutely no hesitation in recommending Jeff to anyone.
Mr D. (London)
Mrs R. (Shropshire)
This is the second time Tom Edrop has represented my daughter in a family matter and can highly recommend him. He handled this case always in a positive way and managed to keep our feet grounded when we wanted to take on the whole world with frustration. He produced a fantastic Position Statement for us. Always polite often asking about our welfare when on certain days finding the going was tough felt like a virtual hug. A positive outcome in court allowing us the opportunity to plan for the future. Thank you Tom
Mr S. (Berkshire)
Hi Colin/Jeff,
Just wanted to let you know that things are going smoothly with me and the girls. As I said all along, after 2 minutes of seeing them again it was back to normal, they had missed me, were happy to see me and said they never wanted not to see me.
I had my first overnight stay last weekend, and have another 2 weeks of 1 overnight, then I’m back to every other weekend (normal). I’m sorry it’s taken this long to write any sort of thanks following the court hearing but obviously I’ve been concentrating on the girls, work and have also managed to purchase my house so I’m back on the ladder too
I can’t thank Colin and Jeff enough, without their calm and professional approach, I wouldn’t have been able to stay focused and to have regained contact with my children so quickly. It’s amazing to know that there are people out there that will help, and no matter how much you feel like you’re on your own, you’re not, and there’s always hope.
Mr H. (Staffordshire)
Mr H. (Worcestershire)
Thank you so much again.
Dr P. (Surrey)
Family Law Decisions provided me with a McKenzie friend (Jeff Botterill), advice on the process, help working with the various experts, and other ongoing support, maintaining their child-focused ethos throughout. They clearly have extensive experience of the family law process, and they are sensitive to the effects that it all can have on a ‘litigant in person’. I am hugely grateful to the support that Family Law Decisions have provided in helping me stay in touch with my son, I could not have done it without them. I wholeheartedly recommend them to anyone seeking a child-focused resolution.
Mr N (Hampshire)
Testimonial for the work of Julie Marsden as my McKenzie Friend.
Ms A. (Berkshire)
Before I met Jeff Botterill I was not coping well, I had spent over 30k on legal fees with another company with minimal progress, mine was a complex case in that conduct was an issue and I had to protect my children. Jeff’s knowledge and experience around family law is impressive – he knew about processes but more than that he also supported me and enabled me to keep me focused on what I needed to do to help keep my children safe at a time when my emotions were all over the place. There are no words that can recommend or thank Jeff enough for how he helped me and my children.
Mr C. (Derbyshire)
Hi Colin,
Just wanted to send you an email just to say how appreciated i am for your support throughout the whole case, couldn’t of done it without you and most definitely will recommend you for anyone who comes to me that needs an issue resolving.
Very professional and 10/10 for feedbacks, checking in and sorting all issues and Court forms. Good luck for future ventures and proceedings.Kinds regards
Mrs K. (Manchester)
Mr B. (Staffordshire)
I was put in contact with Colin by Families need Fathers as a McKenzie friend, quite late in my case, but he soon helped create a very professional and powerful statement. He was very honest from the start and made it quite clear men don’t win these cases very often.
Well we won, and we will all never be able to thank him enough for all he did. He has become quite a popular character round here, and some one who will always be a friend.
From one very happy Dad.
Mr E. (Norfolk)
Thanks to your excellent witness statements and a really good CAFCASS reports we came away with all the orders applied for.
All in All a very good result!
Your help in this matter was invaluable. 6 months ago I was lost and in despair but thanks to you we can now settle back and get on with Family life again. Hopefully stress free from this point onwards!
I would not hesitate to recommend You to anyone in need of your services.
Very Best Regards
Mr N. (Yorkshire)
Good morning Sir
Mr P. (London)
With help from Jeff, Haleema and Sania with my case has had a positive outcome so far for the family court at a very reasonable cost compared to solicitors. Final hearing is due to come but expect good results with the advice I have received so far.
Mr & Mrs L. (Wiltshire)
Mr R. (Birmingham)
It’s difficult to understate the benefit Colin’s vast experience had on my case. His straightforward advice – based on that vast experience – is very refreshing after having dealt with ambiguous and sometimes confusing correspondence from solicitors.
My case was an 18-month difficult case and I have just had a successful outcome.
Excellent value for money and highly recommended.
Mr M. (Wales)
Ms H. (Sussex)
Family Law Decisions was amazing, so helpful and calm dealing with traumatic situations. Very patient and thorough. Also can’t thank Izhaar Ulaq enough for helping us get our case heard when the court tried to dismiss it and dealing with every aspect. Thank you so much!
Ms C. (Somerset)
They are confidential and they give to me a lot of help.
Ms D. (Buckinghamshire)
Ms R. (Staffordshire)
Fantastic support and advice, I got the result I wanted plus emotional support, Replied to emails and phone calls very quickly. Thank you!
Mrs S. (London)
Hi Haleema.
Mr L. (Staffordshire)
Hi, I have asked Colin Brealey for his assistance a couple of times now and have to say his services and knowledge are outstanding and very professional.
On both occasions my court hearings were successful and I have ended up with extra contact with my child. I highly recommend Colin Brealey and thank him sincerely for helping me out in a stressful time.
Ms B. (Liverpool)
Mr C. (Derbyshire)
Mr D. (Nottinghamshire)
Mr M. (Cambridgeshire)
Dear Haleema,
I would like to sincerely thank you for your attendance and assistance at court today as well as the positive outcome that was achieved.
From the day I first contacted Family Law decisions about the matter I have always been impressed by the high level of professionalism and excellent customer focus.
You took the time to listen to me and then clearly explained the legal aspect of the matter to my satisfaction. I was kept informed about the progress of the matter right up to the hearing today. I was anxious about the potential outcomes but your approach was very assuring and frank.
I thank you once again and will further seek your services as I deal with the other aspects of the matter.
Mr K. (London)
Mr H. (Cheshire)
Colin was very knowledgeable and a huge help in completing the documents for the court process.
Thank you.
Ms S. (London)
Mr B. (Shropshire)
Hello Carly,
Mr H. (Manchester)
On behalf of myself and my family We would like to thank you for all of your assistance yesterday. Your guidance throughout, and the presentation of the documents was first class. Restoring contact with ******* was the best Xmas present we could have hoped for.
We had a get together last night but at the weekend we can have an even better one with our *******.
Thanks again.
Mr M. (London)
Colin has assisted me for 8 months over the course of 4 hearings, including one for a Prohibitive Steps Order, a 2-day Contested Hearing, a hearing for a Special Issue Order and a Final Hearing. His assistance has been invaluable from the very start. His knowledge of case law has assisted me in constructing arguments and he has helped to keep me objective in the midst of a highly stressful case.
As a litigant in person, at every hearing, I have had the outcome I wanted and can attribute this largely to Colin’s assistance at every step of the way. Outside of hearings, he has been a fantastic sounding board. He showed genuine care in wanting me to get the best outcome. Colin’s costs are very reasonable especially considering the extent to which he has supported me.
I have had the assistance of other professional Mckenzie friends, solicitors and counsel, none have assisted me in the way Colin has and for that, I am eternally grateful. Keep up the good work. LIP
Ms T. (Cornwall)
Ms S. (London)
There are a couple of amendments to make, rest is perfect and to the point. You have really nailed it Jeff by making it flow so well and to the point. Thank you so much for your immense help and for being there with me all the way. I will send you an email when all is done or I need any other advice.
Until then a massive thanks once again.
All the best.
Kindest regards
PS: I told my sister about you liking the different spicy food. She told me to invite you at some point to try ……….. food.
Mr B. (Manchester)
Mr S. (London)
Whenever we have been in court Jeff has always been fully prepared for the appearance and the suggestions/advice he has given me has helped me set the agenda in court. Jeff is measured in his approach and calm at all times whether in or out of court.
Mr M. (Surrey)
Mr B. (Lincolnshire)
I was completely out of my depth in this case with my ex partner and her solicitor and was basically getting wiped the floor with. That’s when I decided to contact families need fathers who put me on to you. After speaking with you, you came to Lincolnshire and took charge of my case for me, liaised with my ex partners solicitor and after two hearings got the outcome we wanted.
I can’t thank you enough for your help and professionalism, it’s been 6 months now and everything’s going well, the children are happy and we are having a great time together making memories.
All the best.
Mr B. (London)
Many thanks for your services.
Mr K. (Suffolk)
Colin made himself readily available at the end of the phone or by email and always gave good, practical advice. It was clear that his knowledge of family law was vast. He attended the next court hearing with me, arrived early and, again, gave good, clear and practical advice on how we should proceed. In addition to the advice on how to proceed at the hearing, he also advised me on how to contact my daughter’s GP and nursery to ask for details of matters relating to her and gave me copies of template letters for this purpose.
Thanks to Colin’s vast knowledge of family law and his professional manner, he was able to negotiate with my ex-partner’s solicitor resulting in a final order which I was very happy with indeed. Colin continues to be available to me for advice by email or phone and I would not hesitate to contact him in the future if I had any further problems regarding contact with my daughter. I would also highly recommend Colin to anyone experiencing problems with regard to contact with their child or children.
Mr L. (London)
I was really impressed by the quality of work or documents and advice provided by Sania. I wish I had met Sania or the McKenzie Friends earlier, this would have saved me a lot of money going to Solicitors. Sania is very knowledgeable about the legal matters regarding child arrangements. She was able to turn around the documents at short notice, and they were of high quality.
Mr T. (London)
I had become the latest casualty in a greatly unfair legal system where woman can abuse the system to get rid of their husbands or fathers and put the man through the most unjustly unbelievable nightmare experience where the law treats the man like dog poo and puts the woman in full control of events, calling all the shots. My mental state was called into question. I was accused of being a domestically violent man etc.
It wasn’t until somebody introduced me to Colin Brealey (Family Law Decisions) that someone listened to my plight. Mr Colin Brealey is a ‘McKenzie Friend’ a person that fights cases for men at a vastly reduced cost.
Mr Colin Brealey is not a man of many words. He is so vastly experienced in all of these matters he will get straight to facts. He will just deal with the facts not the emotional gossip or unhelpful slagging off of your ex-partner or situation. He quickly dismisses with the useless emotional stuff and gets right down to business. Just give the man the stuff he asks for, stick just to the facts, do exactly as he tells you and let him take over completely.
I went to court with Mr Colin Brealey six times. Each time I went to court he reigned supreme. He knew more than any of the judges and had them eating out of his hand. He was very influential in Court and with each hearing successfully obtaining more and more meaningful contact with my daughter.
On ../../201.. Mr Colin Brealey successfully won my final child arrangements court hearing victoriously! Overwhelmingly! I was awarded full joint shared care of my daughter. Mr Colin Brealey is the peoples champion. He is passionate about delivering justice for men. He is a no-nonsense person and will not suffer fools gladly, he will not waste words, but his actions say it all. I implore any man out there whatever your own personal story may be this is the man who can. Mr Colin Brealey did it for me in style! If anyone can Mr Colin Brealey can. He is just one amazing human being but you must do as you are told stick to the facts and let him take over completely and do his thing. He is a bloody marvel! An amazing man who can.
Mr P. (London)
Previous experience had also taught me that attending court is an overwhelming and daunting experience so I was conscious that I needed some form of guidance to see me through to the end. Which is when I found Family Law Decisions and in particular, Jeff Botterill, whom I knew straight away was the person I wanted by my side during the whole process. Jeff is extremely calm and reassuring with a knowledge base that is immediately evident. It also helped to learn that once upon a time he had been in my shoes and could recognise the anguish and anxiety I was feeling.
Jeff Botterill is simply a genius and I’m utterly convinced my life would not be so wonderful now if it were not for him. From the moment he agreed to assist me, I knew I was in great hands and a lot of the tension which inevitably builds up seemed to dissipate there and then. Once we got started, Jeff was great at stripping the emotion away and helping you to focus on what is important and ignoring what is irrelevant, as it is very easy to get caught up in the bitterness and unjust nature of everything. He keeps you thinking straight.
He is also a master at drawing up any court documents that will be required along the way and is exceptional at articulating every point of your defence. I was truly blown away when I saw my initial position statement – It summed up perfectly in 10 or 12 sentences what I had been frustratingly screaming about for years. A work of art.
Long story short, my ex-partner dropped her application completely after the first hearing and I was able to amend the existing contact order we had in place to provide for more time with my daughter at weekends and school holidays. The result is my relationship with my daughter is as good now as it’s ever been and I feel that I have been treated fairly by the courts. This is all thanks to Jeff.
I would recommend Jeff in an instant. He really is a godsend.
Mr A. (Leicestershire)
Thanks to Colin and his in depth knowledge of this particular field of family law I was able to get a child arrangements order for regular contact with my son with no risk of my sons mother interfering.
I highly recommend Colin Brealey and his services and also Families Need Fathers, a charity who put me in touch with Mr Brealey.
Many Thanks for your support over the last 6 months.
Ms T. (London)
Mr A. (Derbyshire)
After spending nearly 5k on a family solicitor who simply did nothing to fight my case but instead just rinsed me then somehow I heard of Family Law Decisions and Colin who gave me solid advice and for the fraction of the price brought my case to conclusion. Brilliant service.
Mr S. (Bristol)
Mr M. (London)
When I started this unexpected journey about the children custody battle I was Litigant In-Person and naive.
Naive in a way that I thought the judge or magistrate will see the situation regarding how ridiculous it was and expected common sense to prevail. My Ex-Wife got all the pack: Solicitor plus Barrister.
Trust me, going to Court without knowledge about how Family Court is working, no matter sensible you are, right you are convinced you are, you are wrong. Plain and simple.
My best decision ever was to contact Family Law Decision, Jeff and Colin. They saved me in all meaning you can imagine.
They are direct, clear, and listen to you but also not here to cuddle you.
Their will is to provide you with the best outcome and for this, they show you the best behaviour to adopt, what to say, what to read because they know what matters not to you but to the Court in order for you to get the best outcome.
I have done an FDHRA and second Hearing LIP. For 2 others Hearings, I choose them. Made such a difference and for the Final Hearing thanks to Jeff who helped me with this one, I got an order which I will never be able to have if I was LIP. Never ever.
Trust me all I am easy in a way frustration is overwhelming you, the unfairness feeling making you (like it or not) reacting not the right way. Jeff and Colin gave me the right kick in the butt to save my contact with my children and even more.
Thanks a million to you guys. I have no words to express my gratitude.
Any parent in trouble please forget solicitor and barrister and just contact them
Mr J. (London)
Mr & Mrs L. (Wiltshire)
Julie’s no-nonsense approach is very encouraging.
Mr S. (Surrey)
Dr (Ms C.) London
Mr S. (London)
My application had previously been dismissed and I was losing hope and lacking the motivation to make progress. Jeff’s direct and no-nonsense approach was invaluable throughout very complex and difficult proceedings. Even though we did not always agree he was able to see the best way forward and even gain the respect of the Judge. He was always calm, reliable, professional and reassuring when I needed it. I am now seeing my daughter regularly and am grateful to benefit from his experience.
Thanks,
Mr E. (Norfolk)
Thanks to your excellent witness statements and a really good CAFCASS reports we came away with all the orders applied for. All in All a very good result!
Your help in this matter was invaluable. 6 months ago I was lost and in despair but thanks to you we can now settle back and get on with Family life again. Hopefully stress free from this point onwards!
I would not hesitate to recommend You to anyone in need of your services.
Very Best Regards
Ms F. (London)
Have a lovely weekend!
